I’m worried I could become one of those mothers. The ones I avoid like the plague and playgroups, softplay and even doctors waiting rooms. The ones whose kids are the best. And I mean their kids do better and more than all of the other kids.
“My child has started piano lessons, and they’re only 2!”
“Well my child started at 1 and is now writing their own compositions!”
Ok so slight exaggeration but you know what I mean. But it’s hard not to sound like a bit of a nob when you’re proud of your child and you’re telling people what they can do. How do you stop it from sounding like you’re trying to ‘one up’ everyone.
I’ve thought it a few times when talking to strangers in places like playgroups, but this week I was talking to one of my sister in laws, and came away wondering how I came across. I hope she still likes me!
As G is 14 months now and doing new things all the time, she was asking about his speech, does he say many words yet. So I listed what he can say (mainly dad and a list of animals…rarely mum…not bitter honest!). And then as the next sentence came out of my mouth, all I could think was “did that sound pretentious?!”
“And he can sign a few words”
Sign language?! I know that it’s growing in popularity, and there’s a lot of classes offering this, but as I started to explain that I’d done this by myself, by choice, and listing the things he can sign for, it was all I could think about. How I was sounding.
Of course now I’m wondering if this post is making me worse 😀
But when does pride become showing off? We should be proud of whatever our children learn, they’re little blank sponges that soak up loads of new stuff and that’s pretty amazing! And why wouldn’t you want to say that you did that? But when does it become unbearable? Is it the repetition or the way in which it’s said?
What do you think makes it ‘showing off’?
Mrs H xxx